Offended? Tough Tits
And you think your gym is douchey just because the guys are always eye-fucking you while you stretch? How about this story about a local Brooklyn gym that created an all-women’s workout class called “Tough Titsday.”
Read the story here: http://jezebel.com/this-is-what-happens-if-you-question-crossfits-tough-493110075
When one woman complained about the name, she was told that none of the other women in the class found it offensive–that it was meant to be cheeky and fun. When the offended party continued to explain her case, she was eventually told she could not be a member of the gym.
So, where do we start? I don’t really want to rehash what we’ve all debated before: that the gym has a right to call their classes whatever they want; that the potential client has a right to voice her opinion, and a right not to attend that class or the gym; that while the gym can certainly ignore this woman’s concerns, it is worth considering that people’s perceptions of your actions are probably more important than your intentions. What I’m most interested in is what this name really means for the women who participate, happily, in the class.
Look, it’s not the most offensive name in the world. I have a bit of experience with this gym and lots with CrossFit in general, and I don’t really think these people are a bunch of douchey bros as the Jezebel article asserts. Maybe these women just don’t take the name that seriously and are more interested in working hard, getting fit, and enjoying the camaraderie the all-female class creates.
Still, I can’t help but think that there is a little bit of clever, well-hid patriarchy at work here. The gym, especially a gym full of weightlifters, is generally still a man’s world. Women must conform to the male rules and regulations in order to be accepted and be one of the cool kids. Like those women who beg us to believe that they love going to strip clubs with guy friends because they’re so open and secure, maybe some of these women are accepting a bit of misogyny simply because if you want to be a badass workout chick, you better be able to take a joke – if you’re easily offended, this is not the gym for you. If you want to be equal, you better shut up and take whatever we’re dishing out–and if you can’t handle it, that’s tough tits for you.
What do you think? Is she overreacting? Is the gym douchey? Should everyone just shut up and do some pushups (I vote for the latter).